FAILURE NUGGETS – II

Hello Family & welcome to another fantastic Friday!! We are already in the middle of June & the year is running away so fast.

How are you far have you gone with achieving your set goals for 2019?

The graphic below will be of help to you, it’s still possible to stick those 2019 goals, you can still make it!!.

Today, I will like to continue on our series “Cultivating a Growth Mindset” & conclude on the failure nuggets as promised in my last post on the series.

FAILURE NUGGETS – I

One of the major things to settle while cultivating a growth mindset is the fact that failures will come, life will throw challenges your way & you will make mistakes. The trick to this is to accept it as some form of experiment & quickly learn from it & move on.

Last week I spoke about mentorship & how it’s best to learn from other people’s mistake than making one on your own, the fact is that you really cant avoid failures, it’s part of the success package & how you deal with it determines your readiness to move to the next level.

In John Maxwell’s book “How successful people think“, I discovered that highly successful people think about THE BIG PICTURE. Big-picture thinkers broaden their outlook by striving to learn from every experience. They dont rest on their successes, they learn from them, more importantly, they learn from their failures too. They are able to do this because they remain teachable.

Various experiences – both positive & negative- help you see the big picture. The greater the variety of experience & success the more potential to learn you have. If you desire to be a big-picture thinker, then get out there & try a lot of things, take a lot of chances & take time to learn after ever victory or defeat.

My mantra is “I DON’T LOOSE, SOMETIMES I WIN, OTHER TIMES I LEARN

There are a lot of things to learn from Tiger Woods redemptive story. I took a listen to BBC Sports podcast after he won the Masters & I was amazed at how far he had spiral down the hole.

He had a lot of personal, marital, mental and physical issues to deal with.

Tiger Woods on his part was a sports hero, his legend traveled far and wide until his infamous troubles started. He lost his wife, his career, his friends, his name and reputation. Tiger became a thing of ridicule.

Sports analysts and the media wrote him off, I actually saw a documentary in which some sports analysts said he will never play golf again talk less of winning a major title, but here we are today talking about winning his 15th major trophy & being honored with a presidential Medal of Freedom!!!

Key Lessons to Learn

  1. OWN IT: Never blame anyone for your failure. You will never get out of the rot & make it back to light if you keep finding someone else to blame. Set your mind that it’s your responsibility to turn it around. Tiger never blamed anyone for his issues, he acknowledge that he got himself into it & he will get out of it.
  2. CHALLENGE IT: Don’t be comfortable in that state or address. There is a big different between a pig & a sheep when they both fall into mud. The pig is comfortable & enjoys the mud, but the sheep cries out for help. See the obstacle or failure situation as an opportunity & challenge it.
  3. STAY FOCUSED: Tiger’s issues started with an injury, then got addicted to pain medications after going through a spine surgery, had a car crash, got a mug shot when he was pulled over by a police officer & was charged, then the infidelity issues & addition to sex, went into rehab, etc. But in the midst of all of this he maintained a focused mind to recovery. Tiger was shown videos of sports analysts that clearly said he will never play the game of golf again. Yes he was hurt & he cried, at some point he thought he was done as they said. But he also said he will get come back at some point
  4. HAVE YOUR “CORNER” PEOPLE: Tiger’s road to recovery started with having his “corner” people around him. Corner people are your ride or die folks, those that will stick with you through thick & especially through thin. His mother, doctor, therapist, caddie, girlfriend & kids were the corner people in Tiger’s life. You also need to get your corner people & allow them help & support you. You can’t make it out alone.
  5. STAY HUMBLE THROUGH IT: The road to recovery is long & you need to stay humble (teachable) through the process. Tiger’s nastiness & ruthlessness melted away into pure humility. He became a changed Man, a better Man & things have turn around 180 degrees. His character is now different, he has grown to become a better father,son, lover & golfer.

FAILURE ADVANTAGE PROCESS

The idea is to take these points as a process, almost like a scientific experiment, it helps take the emotion out of it when things don’t go to plan. This provides you with the opportunity to objectively view your efforts as an experiment.

And it can reduce the stigma and emotional response we often associate with making mistakes or even failing. The next time you plan to expand your knowledge and put what you’ve learned into practice, take some time to create your own test experiment process.

First, get really clear on what you’re testing. What skills are you developing? Or what knowledge are you putting into action? And most importantly think about why this is important for you. What do you hope to achieve?

Second, set a review process. Periodically check in and review what has worked well and what hasn’t worked so well. Remember to try and be as objective as possible. Celebrate the successes, but also celebrate the fact you’ve tried if things don’t go to plan.

Third, consider how you can refine your approach. What tweaks could you make? What did you learn in the process that will help you to achieve a better result in the future? What won’t you try again, because it just didn’t work that well?

Finally, plan how you’ll repeat this really simple process again and again. Block out time in your diary. Commit to creating your own review process. Understanding things won’t always go to plan, creating a really strong review process, and treating your growth and development as a scientific experiment will help you to develop a successful growth mindset.

It will also set you up on the path of lifelong learning, helping you to turn challenges into opportunities to learn.

FAILURE IS NOT FINAL!!!

This is my snippet…….. I AM SHALOMESQ

FAILURE NUGGETS – I

It’s Good Friday today, a chance to celebrate Easter once again!! Hope it’s been a good day for you? For me I’ve taken the day very slowly as I’ve taken the holiday to catch up on some pending work, sieved through my social media profiles (Facebook in particular) to remove some folks off my list & to finally write this post.

This topic has been on my mind the whole week & it’s also a continuation of our main series on “Cultivating a Growth Mindset“. You can catch up on all the previous posts using the respective links below & I do hope I’ve been able to inspire & not bore you to death on this one.

This is fixing to becoming one of the longest series have ran in over 4 years.

Cultivating a Growth Mindset – I

Cultivating a Growth Mindset – II

Cultivating a Growth Mindset – III

Cultivating a Growth Mindset – IV

The Talent Trap

The Talent Trap – II

Today, I’ll be talking about FAILURE, there has been a lot of publications & media hype around success stories of men & women all around the world across various fields of endeavor , but few really talk about their failures. I once said It’s a better investment for me to spend my money attending a series of courses on failure than success seminars.

There are a lot of things to learn from failure & this is one of the key areas of a growth mindset – The ability to take advantage & glean nuggets from failure. A few quotes below from my mentors John C. Maxwell & Rev Sam Adeyemi further drives home this point. John has an excellent book I will recommend about this topic titled “Failing Forward”


“Without failure there is no achievement.” -John C. Maxwell


“Failure is not the opposite of success. It is part of success” – Rev Sam Adeyemi


“Failing forward” is the ability to get back up after you’ve been knocked down, learn from your mistake, and move forward in a better direction.” – John C. Maxwell

Part of any kind of growth is about pushing past barriers and entering uncharted territory. The same applies to developing a growth mindset. You’re entering the unknown. Whenever you take on something new there will be a period of trial and error as you put new knowledge and skills into practice.

A side effect of this is the challenges you may face and the possibility that you may make mistakes, and you feel like you failed.

The good news is you can turn mistakes, failures, obstacles and challenges into your advantage.

It’s all about changing your perspective to see things as part of the process of developing a growth mindset. Of course, learning new information, broadening your knowledge, and developing your skills can create huge rewards.

And this process can at times be entirely smooth sailing. Or there may be a few bumps in the road. The key is to prepare yourself for potential challenges, and accept that you may fail as you start to put new ideas and skills into practice.

You also need to understand making decisions that don’t always pay off are just a normal part of the process. In fact, rather than just accepting mistakes may occur, if you can learn to celebrate failure you’ll create a way of thinking that helps you to thrive.

This means you give yourself the psychological tools to cope with obstacles and learn to turn challenging situations into opportunities to grow.

Learning how to create a continuous development outlook will help you to hone your growth mindset. The idea is to create a process whereby you expand your knowledge, broaden your skills, test new approaches, review progress, and make tweaks to enhance your performance in the future.

One of the biggest stories in the sporting world last week was Tiger Woods winning his 5th Masters title at Augusta making it his 15th major trophy, 24 years after winning it the first time as a teenage Stanford student in 1995.

There is so much to unpack about Tiger’s redemption after falling out of grace with a lot of personal, marital, mental and physical roller-coaster & failures to endure. I will try to do that in the next post.

He won his last Major title in 2008 & no one ever thought there will be an 11 year wait before his next title.

Is life knocking you down? Have you failed before?

What is your attitude to failure? Do you accept it or do you see it an an opportunity to grow?


This is my snippet …….. I AM SHALOMESQ