growth mindset

Hello Family!! it’s Friday 15th March 2019!! Wow the year is really running fast & we are mid-march already, before you know it, Q1 2019 will be over.

How far are you with your set goals & targets for 2019? Are you still on-track or off the rails? The next 16 days might be a good time to reassess & realign yourself.

Cultivating a growth mindset – I

In my previous post above, I tried to set a bit of a foundation regarding the topic “Cultivating a growth mindset” which was a LinkedIn course I took about 4 months ago as part of an e-learning trial team for my company’s HR department. This class was taught by Gemma Leigh Roberts, Chartered Psychologist, Executive Coach, and author.

We looked at the mind as the battlefield & that if you win in your mind, you will ultimately win in life, it’s just a matter of time.We started talking about the mindset, which is the established set of attitudes held by someone & how this is a reflection of a person’s world view or philosophy of life.

A person can be accurately analyzed based on their mindsets to a lot of things in life & there are both positive and negative mindsets. The good news is that we have the power & ability to shift from one to the other with the key being our ability to learn.


Today, let’s take it up a notch!!! We were created by God as tripartite, Man (the human being) is a spirit, armed with a soul & lives in a protective casing called the body that enables us to function here on earth. We have a choice as regards the type of mindset we deploy & engage with in our lives.

Now there is a counter argument to this as most people will say you don’t have a choice considering that you don’t choose your parents, family, society, nation, the type of environment you were born into or grow in & that has a huge impact on your mindset. Yes I do agree but despite that fact, your life is still your life & no one is responsible for it other than YOU!

It’s great to blame others while you are younger & have people making decisions for you, but as you get older, you need to take the driver’s seat of your life & start to make choice decisions. Don’t let your background put your back on the ground, you have the choice to re-invent yourself & evolve to a better YOU despite the challenges of life.

I didn’t have the best of template to follow growing up, but at some point as I grew older, I took it upon myself to shred the old templates, created new & better ones of my own which I intend to pass on to my kids with the mandate to make it better than mine.


There are 3 broad types of mindsets namely:

  1. Fixed Mindset
  2. Mixed Mindset
  3. Growth Mindset


As the name implies, those with this type of mindset truly believe that their skills and abilities won’t change, that they’ve reached a certain level and that’s where they can expect to remain.

They see failure as fatal, as the end of the road, they have the notion that everything in life has limits & once you reach that limit, that’s it.

Feedback is not constructive for these type of people, they are unwilling to try new things ( ideas, skills, etc), are threatened by the successes of other around them & they don’t do well under the pressure and challenges of life.

Did I just describe you, someone you know or an organization you know or work with at the moment?

Don’t worry, remember that one of the keys to shifting from one mindset to the other is the ability to learn.

Learning is a a very important ingredient in cultivating the right mindset, so it’s good to know where you are at the moment so that you can map out where you want to be & how to get there.

Do you agree you have a choice in life & about your mindset?

Do you have a fixed mindset?

Are you willing to learn & evolve out of that fixed mindset?

Altering your mindset takes practice, commitment, and focus. When it comes to how you think and process information, there’s no quick fix. But you can make small steps towards how you want to change that over time can make a big impact.

This is my snippet…….. I AM SHALOMESQ


Leadership & Work Ethics – Part 3


As we further look at the topic leadership & work ethic, 2 previous posts (Part1 & Part2) have given us a good foundation. You can read them up to catch up on the discussion.

Leadership Level 1 is all about compliance based on Position ( or rights), people follow you because they have to. Level 2 is about Permission ( or relationship) in which people follow you because they want to, they give you the permission to lead them based on genuine & true relationships.

Today, I will be looking at the 3rd level of leadership & this is PRODUCTION

Levels of leadership – LEVEL 3 PRODUCTION

At Level 3, people follow you because of what you have done. There are clear, solid results that you have achieved & as Pastor Ana Sweet will say ” People might argue with your principles, but they will never argue with results“. The success of the leader is what draws follower-ship at this level.

They must have observed something about you that they admire or desire. Your results generally play a big part at this stage & people give you the permission to influence them so as to produce those results themselves.

I have a young man that regularly chats with me about relationships & tells how much he loves & admires  my marriage & home especially after we celebrated our 10th anniversary in 2015. We’ve built a relationship over the years in which he has given me the permission to share my experience especially when my wife & I were dating ( he is currently at that stage) as we prepared for marriage.

Because he saw results in the area that he desires, he is willing & open to my influence in that area. Even though our chats are short ( 10-20 mins), I always ensure I drop new nuggets for him each time which he runs with & by our next chat he provides me with a progress report. I am happy that he is on his path to marital bliss, being equipped to face the unique challenges that will come along the way.

In project management, most project managers rely on their expertise as a form of authority to lead their teams successfully.  I experienced this a lot while consulting & leading projects for 4 years across central & west Africa. Whenever I joined a new project as the lead consultant or PM, the team tends to size me up ( this was particularly a challenge for me considering I was young & black, the usual notion was that only old white PMs can be an expert in Telecoms considering it was new to Africa in the mid 2000’s), but by the time I have my first interaction with the team & display an expert level of knowledge than most of the folks in the team, I tend to hold a higher level of influence & coupled with a good relationship based on mutual respect (level 2) & the fact that I am the boss (level 1), the initial resistance melts into a vibrant team ethics which guaranteed success every time.

Good leaders don’t just create pleasant working environment, they get things done.

Static Train vs Moving Train

Momentum is created at this level, especially if you work with the same team on different projects. This is because the more you work together & produce results on projects, the more trust the team has in their ability to churn out results no matter the obstacle.

John Maxwell uses this example when he talks about momentum, a static train can be stopped from moving by using a small block, but a moving train at 70 mph will crush that block or any obstacle along its way because of momentum.

Leaders can become change agents at this level & take people to the next level of effectiveness. At this point,leading becomes fun!!

A lot of people are usually on Levels 1 -3 in their leadership or influence journey. That has been my experience too, but very few move up to the next 2 levels. I will be looking at Level 4 of leadership in my next post.

Are you a leader? What is the level of your influence? No matter where you are now, strive to move to the next level. There is much more to achieve!!

This is my snippet, I am SHALOMESQ!!!