growth mindset

Hello Family!! it’s Friday 15th March 2019!! Wow the year is really running fast & we are mid-march already, before you know it, Q1 2019 will be over.

How far are you with your set goals & targets for 2019? Are you still on-track or off the rails? The next 16 days might be a good time to reassess & realign yourself.

Cultivating a growth mindset – I

In my previous post above, I tried to set a bit of a foundation regarding the topic “Cultivating a growth mindset” which was a LinkedIn course I took about 4 months ago as part of an e-learning trial team for my company’s HR department. This class was taught by Gemma Leigh Roberts, Chartered Psychologist, Executive Coach, and author.

We looked at the mind as the battlefield & that if you win in your mind, you will ultimately win in life, it’s just a matter of time.We started talking about the mindset, which is the established set of attitudes held by someone & how this is a reflection of a person’s world view or philosophy of life.

A person can be accurately analyzed based on their mindsets to a lot of things in life & there are both positive and negative mindsets. The good news is that we have the power & ability to shift from one to the other with the key being our ability to learn.


Today, let’s take it up a notch!!! We were created by God as tripartite, Man (the human being) is a spirit, armed with a soul & lives in a protective casing called the body that enables us to function here on earth. We have a choice as regards the type of mindset we deploy & engage with in our lives.

Now there is a counter argument to this as most people will say you don’t have a choice considering that you don’t choose your parents, family, society, nation, the type of environment you were born into or grow in & that has a huge impact on your mindset. Yes I do agree but despite that fact, your life is still your life & no one is responsible for it other than YOU!

It’s great to blame others while you are younger & have people making decisions for you, but as you get older, you need to take the driver’s seat of your life & start to make choice decisions. Don’t let your background put your back on the ground, you have the choice to re-invent yourself & evolve to a better YOU despite the challenges of life.

I didn’t have the best of template to follow growing up, but at some point as I grew older, I took it upon myself to shred the old templates, created new & better ones of my own which I intend to pass on to my kids with the mandate to make it better than mine.


There are 3 broad types of mindsets namely:

  1. Fixed Mindset
  2. Mixed Mindset
  3. Growth Mindset


As the name implies, those with this type of mindset truly believe that their skills and abilities won’t change, that they’ve reached a certain level and that’s where they can expect to remain.

They see failure as fatal, as the end of the road, they have the notion that everything in life has limits & once you reach that limit, that’s it.

Feedback is not constructive for these type of people, they are unwilling to try new things ( ideas, skills, etc), are threatened by the successes of other around them & they don’t do well under the pressure and challenges of life.

Did I just describe you, someone you know or an organization you know or work with at the moment?

Don’t worry, remember that one of the keys to shifting from one mindset to the other is the ability to learn.

Learning is a a very important ingredient in cultivating the right mindset, so it’s good to know where you are at the moment so that you can map out where you want to be & how to get there.

Do you agree you have a choice in life & about your mindset?

Do you have a fixed mindset?

Are you willing to learn & evolve out of that fixed mindset?

Altering your mindset takes practice, commitment, and focus. When it comes to how you think and process information, there’s no quick fix. But you can make small steps towards how you want to change that over time can make a big impact.

This is my snippet…….. I AM SHALOMESQ



goals vs growth
goals vs growth

In the last 3 posts my focus has been on “setting goals that’ll stick in 2019” & we looked at 5 proven strategies to overcoming goal failure based on a Michael Hyatt webinar I attended late last year on the same topic.

To help catch up, the picture below summaries the 5 points in a lovely way.

5 strategies to overcoming goal failure

Today, this post is focused on pitching 2 ideas against each other. The first is the concept of goal setting & the other that of growth. Goal setting is very important but it will amount to nothing if actions are not taken to achieve them.

“Dreams may be imaginable but goals are actionable.” –Michael Hyatt

That process of taking actions in line with your goals helps to bring your dreams to a reality.

One of the key strategies that helps to guarantee the successful achievement of your goals is Strategy # 3 : Be In The Discomfort Zone

There is no point setting goals every year & making up resolutions if it doesn’t move you further along the path towards your ultimate destiny.

Every success you want to achieve in life is actually outside your comfort zone, nothing great happens in your comfort zone.

While talking on this point in my previous post, I gave an example of someone who is currently saving $50 a month.

If that person keeps setting this same goal every year, then there is no growth as that person is sitting in the comfort zone with no stretch.

The moment the person decides to set a new goal of $75 a month, then the wheels starts to turn as the focus will now be on how to achieve this new target.

That person is now forced to think differently, have a second or third look at how to get the extra $25 a month savings.


According to the Oxford dictionary, GROWTH is simply defined as “The process of increasing in size”.

We see this happen around us in nature all of the time as we grow physically in our bodies & as plants, trees & animals grow in our environment.

The sad reality is that majority of us don’t grow in specific domain areas of lives, we generally leave it to chance & just tag along to see where we end up.

In August 2017, I took an online course with the John Maxwell Team on the 15 Laws of Growth & one of the first thing John said is that growth is intentional, you cant leave it to chance.

You have to be deliberate about it.

At some point I will share my thoughts & lessons learnt from that course, but now the focus is about goals vs growth.

Growth is the only guarantee that tomorrow is going to get better” – John C. Maxwell

Naturally things don’t get better, because of entropy (lack of order or predictability; gradual decline into disorder).

If you buy a brand new car today straight out of the factory, it’s at the best pristine state. The moment you start the engine, rev & drive it out, it begins to depreciate in value.

Take an apple, cut it into two & leave it for a while, it begins to change color & loose its freshness. So growing, advancing & making progress in life requires a force (spiritual) coupled with intentionality.

Just like traveling to space requires a force greater than the earth’s gravitational pull, getting to your ultimate destination ( destiny) in life requires a force.

Part 2

In part 2 of the series on goal settings above , I mentioned the 3 negative emotions that confronts us as we aim to set goals in the discomfort zone. These 3 emotions are actually indicators that you are on the right path & you just need to refocus your mind to overcome them & still take the right steps towards achieving your goals.

All of the 5 strategies of goal setting are important & relevant as long as the focus is growth. There is no point in going through all of the motions & activities if the end zone is not progression.

Personal growth keeps you prepared, constant growth is the preparation for opportunity. You don’t go into an opportunity, you grow into an opportunity. Everything in life that you’re ever going to want is based on your ability to grow & develop yourself.

The fruit of everything good in life begins with a challenge…Everything is uphill that’s worthwhile.

Are you just focused on setting goals?

Are your goals moving you forward?

Is growth the ultimate aim of your goal setting?

This is my snippet…….. I AM SHALOMESQ