Hello Family & welcome to another fantastic Friday!! We are already in the middle of June & the year is running away so fast.
How are you far have you gone with achieving your set goals for 2019?
The graphic below will be of help to you, it’s still possible to stick those 2019 goals, you can still make it!!.
Today, I will like to continue on our series “Cultivating a Growth Mindset” & conclude on the failure nuggets as promised in my last post on the series.
One of the major things to settle while cultivating a growth mindset is the fact that failures will come, life will throw challenges your way & you will make mistakes. The trick to this is to accept it as some form of experiment & quickly learn from it & move on.
Last week I spoke about mentorship & how it’s best to learn from other people’s mistake than making one on your own, the fact is that you really cant avoid failures, it’s part of the success package & how you deal with it determines your readiness to move to the next level.
In John Maxwell’s book “How successful people think“, I discovered that highly successful people think about THE BIG PICTURE. Big-picture thinkers broaden their outlook by striving to learn from every experience. They dont rest on their successes, they learn from them, more importantly, they learn from their failures too. They are able to do this because they remain teachable.
Various experiences – both positive & negative- help you see the big picture. The greater the variety of experience & success the more potential to learn you have. If you desire to be a big-picture thinker, then get out there & try a lot of things, take a lot of chances & take time to learn after ever victory or defeat.
My mantra is “I DON’T LOOSE, SOMETIMES I WIN, OTHER TIMES I LEARN“
There are a lot of things to learn from Tiger Woods redemptive story. I took a listen to BBC Sports podcast after he won the Masters & I was amazed at how far he had spiral down the hole.
He had a lot of personal, marital, mental and physical issues to deal with.
Tiger Woods on his part was a sports hero, his legend traveled far and wide until his infamous troubles started. He lost his wife, his career, his friends, his name and reputation. Tiger became a thing of ridicule.
Sports analysts and the media wrote him off, I actually saw a documentary in which some sports analysts said he will never play golf again talk less of winning a major title, but here we are today talking about winning his 15th major trophy & being honored with a presidential Medal of Freedom!!!
Key Lessons to Learn
- OWN IT: Never blame anyone for your failure. You will never get out of the rot & make it back to light if you keep finding someone else to blame. Set your mind that it’s your responsibility to turn it around. Tiger never blamed anyone for his issues, he acknowledge that he got himself into it & he will get out of it.
- CHALLENGE IT: Don’t be comfortable in that state or address. There is a big different between a pig & a sheep when they both fall into mud. The pig is comfortable & enjoys the mud, but the sheep cries out for help. See the obstacle or failure situation as an opportunity & challenge it.
- STAY FOCUSED: Tiger’s issues started with an injury, then got addicted to pain medications after going through a spine surgery, had a car crash, got a mug shot when he was pulled over by a police officer & was charged, then the infidelity issues & addition to sex, went into rehab, etc. But in the midst of all of this he maintained a focused mind to recovery. Tiger was shown videos of sports analysts that clearly said he will never play the game of golf again. Yes he was hurt & he cried, at some point he thought he was done as they said. But he also said he will get come back at some point
- HAVE YOUR “CORNER” PEOPLE: Tiger’s road to recovery started with having his “corner” people around him. Corner people are your ride or die folks, those that will stick with you through thick & especially through thin. His mother, doctor, therapist, caddie, girlfriend & kids were the corner people in Tiger’s life. You also need to get your corner people & allow them help & support you. You can’t make it out alone.
- STAY HUMBLE THROUGH IT: The road to recovery is long & you need to stay humble (teachable) through the process. Tiger’s nastiness & ruthlessness melted away into pure humility. He became a changed Man, a better Man & things have turn around 180 degrees. His character is now different, he has grown to become a better father,son, lover & golfer.
FAILURE ADVANTAGE PROCESS
The idea is to take these points as a process, almost like a scientific experiment, it helps take the emotion out of it when things don’t go to plan. This provides you with the opportunity to objectively view your efforts as an experiment.
And it can reduce the stigma and emotional response we often associate with making mistakes or even failing. The next time you plan to expand your knowledge and put what you’ve learned into practice, take some time to create your own test experiment process.
First, get really clear on what you’re testing. What skills are you developing? Or what knowledge are you putting into action? And most importantly think about why this is important for you. What do you hope to achieve?
Second, set a review process. Periodically check in and review what has worked well and what hasn’t worked so well. Remember to try and be as objective as possible. Celebrate the successes, but also celebrate the fact you’ve tried if things don’t go to plan.
Third, consider how you can refine your approach. What tweaks could you make? What did you learn in the process that will help you to achieve a better result in the future? What won’t you try again, because it just didn’t work that well?
Finally, plan how you’ll repeat this really simple process again and again. Block out time in your diary. Commit to creating your own review process. Understanding things won’t always go to plan, creating a really strong review process, and treating your growth and development as a scientific experiment will help you to develop a successful growth mindset.
It will also set you up on the path of lifelong learning, helping you to turn challenges into opportunities to learn.
FAILURE IS NOT FINAL!!!
This is my snippet…….. I AM SHALOMESQ