Cultivating Leadership skills in our kids


Happy new month to everyone!!!

It’s amazing how the 1st part of 2017 just flew by & we are starting the 2nd part already!!

I do hope everyone is doing well & are still on track as regards our 2017 goals & targets.

If you are on track, CONGRATULATIONS!! Stay on track & focus to end the year in style.

If you are off track, it’s half-time & its a good time to take stock & re-align, get in those Super Subs that can change your game & move you from loosing or drawing to winning & maintain that win till the end.

For me,it’s been exactly 3 months since my last post & I sincerely apologise for the long silence as I’ve been battling with a couple of things as well as doing a bit of research on my next topic.

If you recall, I had set a goal early in the year to finish some of my outstanding series on Leadership, Dating, Marriage, etc & I’m glad that at least I finished that of leadership.

It’s been a struggle starting on the next series as I waited for that spark to kick-start a new series.

A couple of topics went through my mind & I was even tempted to write on current & trending topics but none crystallised like this one.

One of my major passions is seeing that we handover great things to the next generation ( i.e. our children) & while I was rounding up the leadership series, someone asked me a question saying “It’s nice to teach adults about leadership, but how do we activate & cultivate these traits in the actual leaders of tomorrow ?”

Basking in the euphoria of the recent Father’s day celebration, a Facebook friend of mine also asked a pertinent question saying “How might we teach kids PURPOSE and FOCUS early in life?”

With these confirmations, I knew what the next series was going to be about & just like that the wheels started turning & I reflected on the principles my wife & I are using in raising our two 21st century kids to this point with some level of success.

As a late entrant to the 70’s, I have seen that a lot has changed in the way people raise their children now as compared to those days & you will agree with me that even though the goal remains the same, the strategy needs to change & be adapted to cope with our modern age & all that comes with it.

In this series, I will be referencing the body of work of 2 great men that I have followed over the last couple of decades John C. Maxwell & Dr. James Dobson as well as Skip Prichard a recent addition to my mentor’s list.

Prov22:6 says Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.”

Our jobs as parents is to train, nurture & instil the right mindset in our kids so as to ensure that they grow up as responsible citizens of the world, like another Facebook friend of mine said ” It’s our bottom line responsibility.

We are called to lead our kids & show them the way to go, so it means the work actually starts with us.

A crooked ruler cant draw a straight line, we must work on ourselves to be the right model, we can’t instil the right mindset in our kids if we don’t have the right mindset ourselves”

How does a parent become a good leader for a child?


Abraham Lincoln said, “There is but one way to train up a child in the way he should go, and that is to travel it yourself.” A good example is worth a thousand sermons. What you do has more impact on your child than all the lectures you could ever give.

This can not be overemphasised because as parents, the onus is on us to get the right template- character, mindset, discipline, nature -in place preferably before the kids arrive on the scene.

I am a firm believer in the fact that we must always strive to be a better version of our parents & our kids a better version of us in all areas & aspects of life.

Failure to do this means we will handover a weaker stock to the next generation & things will fall apart quickly.

Children copy & quickly absorb what they see you DO far more than what they hear you SAY.

I remember my son watching how I pray during my morning devotions when he was much younger & started to copy. In time when he was old enough to pray on his own, I see him doing things exactly the way I did them & that is just one aspect.

When my daughter was 2 years old, she noticed that we all arrange our shoes in a certain corner of the living room & before long she started doing the same to the extend that when a visitor comes into the living room & they remove their shoes, she will on her own take their shoes from wherever they left it & go arrange it in “the right order at the right place”

What we model as parents is very important.

Do you have the right template for your kids?

Are you modelling the right traits for them to copy?

The next post will take this deeper as we look under every rock & hope to get help to raise them right!!! 

This is my snippet, I AM SHALOMESQ!!!


5 thoughts on “Cultivating Leadership skills in our kids

  1. So on point. Kids model what we do and reflect what character traits we exhibit in their presence. Great job bros. Looking forward to learn more on this journey as I am passionate about raising kids rightly.


    1. Thanks a lot Adebola, we share the same passion & I do hope that this series will be of help!! Stay tuned for the next post. Appreciate your comment!!


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